Hi everyone,
Are you having conversations with yourself? Have they been helpful or alarming? Who is your audience? Self? How do you feel about what you are telling yourself or others? Do you enjoy listening to your own voice? Self? How can you tell if the information is accurate? Are you less focused when you are listening to others? Do you believe more in yourself? STOP!!! It’s time to give someone else the floor while you gather your thoughts. I can guarantee you that whatever you were in a rush to say has not been fully thought out!
There are couple of things that I need to share with you when it comes to having your monologue. Nobody enjoys being in the presence of someone who does not acknowledge what other people have to say or share. In other words, it’s time for you to put your listening skills into gear and allow for the dialogue to occur. If you find that you are always ahead of your thoughts, ask yourself if this is about self? Best described as a monologue!
Having healthy conversations drives healthy behaviors. When they are healthy, they help us connect with others and validate our realities. When they are unhealthy, we stop listening to others and fall into a tell-sell-yell situation, which closes down conversations and activates conflicts. We stop being open to others’ perspectives. We become so addicted to being right we impose our will and our monologue. We are not ready to converse. The primary focus is to ensure one voice is heard, and followed. Always being the center of attention.
When people make themselves the center of attention, ignoring signals coming to them, the dialogue breaks down. This internal view creates blind spots and biases. We need to turn our attention outwards, and engage with others. When we do, we build partnerships and nourish each other. We collaborate, innovate, and progress. Stop talking to yourself!
Feel free to boldly transform your monologue into creative energetic conversations. I dare you!
Please share your thoughts on this topic. We can all learn from each other.
JAM
Nice! So true# On a side note, I caught myself having a monologue while driving in traffic. I acted like I was talking on my cell phone when I noticed someone was looking at me.
GM~
Lol, I think that in this case it might be ok..if you don’t over do it!!
Hmmmm….. I really need to ponder on this one. “realitycheck” moment.
I’ll be back.